No we are not married but we have kids together. If we didn't have kids together l would of kick his ass to curb a long time ago. But it's sticky now. I've been doing LOTS of soul searching during his time away & while he was here. He's toxic and blames everyone for his addictions but himself. I have a feeling he treated this like it's a vacation. Thank you for your feed back.
Originally Posted by
Debbyjay 
I just had the same realization when talking with my XAH, who I secretly had hoped would be able to come home. Absolutely not. I'm divorced so I don't need to take him back. It doesn't sound like you are married, so you don't need to either. You can't help him anyway. It doesn't work that way. EVER! For me, I have enough to try to help myself. Honestly, I would do some serious soul searching. If you don't want to return to sick, abusive, dysfunctional relationship and life. DON'T.