I was hyper aware of other peoples drinking when I quit. I saw problem drinkers everywhere.
After a while I settled down and now I don't notice most peoples drinking at all - only the obnoxious drunks.
In the real word I'm a musician , a brother and uncle & a loving partner.
An alcoholic is only a little bit of who I am and most of the relationships I have nowadays reflect that
I generally don't approach people about their problem drinking - partly because I do that here, partly because I'm pretty good on boundaries and partly because I remember how outraged I was when people approached me about my problem - it was fear and shame that my 'secret' was revealed.
People who know me well know I'm an alcoholic in recovery and some of those folks in my real life have approached me for help or a sympathetic ear over the years
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