being a team player for me starts at the doors of work when i walk in and stops when i walk out. team players are responsible- the dont go out after work and show up to work hungover.
heres another quote from the big book:
So our rule is not to avoid a place where there is drinking, if we have a legitimate reason for being there.
You will note that we made an important qualification. Therefore, ask yourself on each occasion, "Have I any good social, business, or personal reason for going to this place? Or am I expecting to steal a little vicarious pleasure from the atmosphere of such places?"
"I think it's also the industry I'm in. Finance is very work-hard/play-hard."
so is the construction industry, manufacturing industry.........
so,yeah, thats an excuse. the excuse is used in every occupation HOWEVER, NOT by people that dont have a drinking or drug problem.
there are a LOT of people in finance that go home after work every day without going to bars with coworkers.
i learned a long time ago to keep work relationships at work.
how to decline invetations is simple:
"no, thank you though for the offer,though."
and if asked why:
"because i said so."