When we talk of recovery for ourselves not them, we must ask ourselves – what was my part in it.
Your part is not accepting that the relationship is really over.
Your part is with wanting to believe his words and that the relationship is somehow salvable.
Your part is with wanting him to change who he is in order for you to happy.
Your part is not of a stupid person, your part is someone who is deeply in love with someone unable to accept that love.
Your part is in having picked the wrong person for you.
Your part is in believing that if he would only stop drinking then your life with him would be fantastic.
Your part is in not letting go emotionally and mentally.
Your part is in not blocking him from contacting you.
Your part is in allowing him to continue to hurt you because you can’t/won’t/don’t let go.
His part well, he's an alcoholic doing and saying what alcoholics do.