Hi ZB
I'm afraid patience is the key here - it took me over a year to get out of debt, but I did it, digging away bit by bit.
As for feeling lonely - there's time enough for that too - I was glad to have time to work on myself - I actually gained a little self esteem from doing that.
I'd had disastrous relationships before...I didn't want another one, so I'm glad I waited
what are you doing for your recovery besides not drinking?
D