Originally Posted by
RedAndy 
I say that because I was him - no matter what it wasn't a problem until it became a problem and I could see it for myself - I met my wife at 20 we both turned 45 in the summer - I've put her through hell due to my problems with drink and drugs but I honestly couldn't see it and didn't accept it was a problem until 1 year ago - that's pretty much a life sentence !!!
WOW! 25 years??? That is a huge and scary eye-opener. I am 39 and just broke up with my ex who is an alcoholic. I just imagined spending the next 25 years with him and the hell I would go through and for me that would be a death sentence. As hard as it is to let him go, I don't want that life for myself!