Liz, I can't answer your question one way or the other. I can just tell you to think about how you grew up. I think I remember that it didn't feel loving. Then your marriage, which pretty much didn't feel like a marriage. Then this boyfriend, you have been here saying that you needed more emotionally.
I'm just going to say to think about what you have, or think if you may need more.
I just know how starved I felt for love and affection when I was married, and sometimes what I wanted was a fantasy, or maybe it wasn't.
It's hard to say one thing or the other in this situation. I don't know either of them. you say he is 2500 miles away, does that mean if you decide new guy, that you move to the East Coast,? where is your son going to college? Not that this should really matter in your decision.
I think it really comes down to, this is your life. Do you think that you are trying to make up for the lack of affection that you have felt most of your life?
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amy