Rose,
((((First huge hugs!))))
All that conflict is a massive trigger for me. When the Beav was at home and things started up I could find myself right back where I used to be. The panic would get to me even tho I was stepping out of the conflict. Believe me when I say if you get in the middle it escalates things. Even if you are in your room listening to him ranting it is better than going out there and confronting him. Let him pass out...we both know he will.
So where are you? You have posted about whether you want to stay or go. Have you begun a plan? Not that you have to do anything but have you given thought to what you would do?
Talk to your sponsor. You are working such a good program...read and learn about boundaries...what you will and won't tolerate in your life. Give some thought to what you might do if all hell breaks loose again...what will I do next time?
Hugs,
JT