Rose
I am sorry for what you are going through. If you step back and look at the picture, you will see that you are the only sane one in it.....so don't feel that there is anything wrong with you.
Daughter - of course not. Unless she is Annette Funicello, this will be some wild weekend.
And your husband...well I'd be mad too. The only thing you can do is avoid him, avoid participating in his chaos, plug your ears and pray.
My heart goes out to you, with my prayers, and I really don't know what to tell you to do, except to make sure you look after Rose.