How many red flag indicators of alcoholism do you need? It's not about you. You didn't cause it. He likes to drink and somewhere along the way, he crossed that line. And there is no going back . It will not get any better EVER unless he quits entirely and stays quit. Do you think he can do that? Is he even willing? Cuz if all he's going to do is talk big while he's drunk and then go back to the same ol same ol the next day, I'd say you have a pretty hard choice to make. Hugs to you.