Oh yeah, I know this well...
My alcoholic husband has ruined just about every major and minor holiday for 10 years. It's almost like there is something about all the promised joy and fun that makes some of them want to destroy it for everyone.
Happy birthday, by the way. I'm so bummed for you that your dad ruined what should have been a very special day for you. I wish you were remembering the cake and presents and not dad's rage-fit.
Have you expressed your feelings to your dad? Do you think he knows he has a problem and that it is affecting you?