Do you listen to the Dear Sugars podcast? When my parents got ill, and my sister went AWOL emotionally and physically, this podcast really just helped me keep it together.
The first letter...
The Family We Carry | Dear Sugars
AND the sequel...you can skip to the 39:05 mark
Happy One Year Of Sugar | Dear Sugars
Another podcast that might be helpful (ignore the title!)
Dear Prudence podcast: The ?Bidet and Boujee? edition.
You can listen to the whole thing or you can skip to the 21:00 mark. I thought that Mallory/Prudence's answer was very much on the mark (she's has the second response.)