I didn't realize this much time had gone by since my original post and I haven't been good at using the resources and the amazing support that this site provides. As expected, situation hasn't gotten better. Detoxed twice, held on for a week and right back....to wine for breakfast. This time around I can see some real personality changes....egomania, delusions, verbal abuse, anger....and he's dumbing down. It is heartbreaking to watch someone you love deteriorate or slowly disappear and feel powerless. I can no longer get thru to him. I haven't changed my mind. I have put my plan B in place. My exit is planned for the fall (financial restrictions until then). There is a lot of love between us but there is no relationship. Will never work. And it's going to be really hard but I know in the end it's the right thing to do.