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Old 07-19-2017, 09:13 AM
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SoberCAH
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Yes, I have changed (mercifully) and I still have plenty of room left for more change for the better.

I have been married for 12 years to my college sweetheart.

We married at age 48.

When we dated in college and for a while afterward, I was in the throes of my drinking and using.

I created consternation, disappointment and havoc wherever I went.

I married a woman I met in a bar somewhere along the line and we divorced 21 years later.

I had not seen my current wife during that interim.

When we got back together, she said that she couldn't believe how calm I am.

When we dated as young adults, I was certainly anything but calm.

I was immature, self-absorbed and dishonest.

She has a rather ebullient personality, so we kind of complement each other.

She is right that I am a very calm person.

For me, the change in demeanor (and attitude and outlook on life) came over a period of many years of intense AA and pursuit of a daily relationship with God.

I didn't try to be calm, it just came as a by-product of those 2 efforts on my part.

I have changed in plenty of other ways, both in the home and workplace environments.

Great thread - thanks for starting it.
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