And to clarify (I wrote in a bit of a haste). My husband wants to constantly talk about how I'm feeling about her. He'll say things like "well at least we know she's safe" and it makes me mad because, for one, I don't care if she's safe. And two, I don't want her occupying my thoughts, feelings or life.
I've been in therapy for years (since I was 5) but I've found the most peace completely disconnecting from her. My husband just does NOT get it.