Well, I'm going to make a plug for Al-Anon, with a couple of caveats.
It's a good fellowship, and you will find lots of support there.
Every meeting has its own vibe, so maybe look around to different meetings to find your fit with like-minded people.
Al-Anon is there to help people troubled by a loved one's drinking or behavior, even if they are at the moment abstinent.
You do not have have to share with your spouse that you are going.
It is for you, not for him.
Your going to Al-Anon may or may not encourage your spouse to go to AA.
Honestly, I wouldn't count on it, as it sounds from your original post that your husband, while aware he has a problem with alcohol, is not quite ready to give it up.
Accepting that one has a drinking problem, and an effective way to solve it would be to completely abstain from consuming, is a hard thing to do.
Many of us struggled for years to moderate our drinking, with no success.
When we finally accepted that abstinence is key to living a productive life in recovery, the way became a lot clearer.
You can't control anyone else's behavior. You can only control your response to it.
Good luck. We are here when you need us.