I guess I fall under the "lover" category of the three L's. My husband relapsed into a drug addiction that he thought was under control 8 months into our marriage. In an effort to help him I attended AA meetings with him, read everything I could on addiction, and went to the family program at his rehab center. I started to realize that everything I was hearing about addiction applied to my drinking. I didn't lose my job, I wasn't having any health problems, I didn't drink and drive, I've never been arrested. I just sat at home and drank...every single night....until I blacked out. I've been sober for 21 days, and the longer I'm sober the more I can see how my drinking was a problem. All the minor injuries I've had over the years, all the mornings of waking up not remembering who I talked to or what I did the night before, all the subtle comments from family and friends who were concerned about how much I was drinking suddenly don't seem so "normal" anymore.