Lava, I bet a lot of people here will attest that drunk you is NOT you, and is in some ways the antithesis of the real you, rather then "defining" you. Claim your sober self, build and nurture and love that true self. It can take awhile to feel that there is anything there to build on...but there IS. You will look back with a proud smile at how far you have come and what you can BEcome.