Originally Posted by
L337Lady 
. I'd just like to understand how he can think that I was the only willing participant in jeopardizing our relationship when we both know the consequences.
He thinks he can justify is addiction because I cannot justify mine when the impact of my decision to drink overruled his.
-Throwin myself a pity party.
the answer to the 1st part is simple; he is sick,too.
he can justify it all he wants just as you can TRY and justify your own actions.
fortunately for you, ya reached out for help. you reached out and
tried to justify abusive,victim, self pity behavior to a group of people who have been in your shoes and care enough to break out their crowbars to work at poppin yer head outta yer but so you can get sober,learn causes and conditions for the underlying issues alcohol is just a symptom of, change, and love yourself.
good on ya for finding an AA meeting. it would be wise and encouraged to pick up the big book to find out exactly what the program is. you can read the big book online,too, until ya get a hardcover edition.
Alcoholics Anonymous : Alcoholics Anonymous
the first 164 pages are what we do to recover from alcoholism.
the rest is personal stories.
id suggest reading right from the front cover.