Lady, you are so sound, wise, mature and yes, a good person for seeing through the bluntness and realising all of these messages come from a place of understanding and care. We all care and we all understand. I have been there more times than I can count. In the end I was blacking out every time I drank, no matter the amount. It was scary and soul crushing.
Life is so much better now that I do not have to deal with that. I wake up each morning refreshed and absolutely sure of what happened the day or night before. Sometimes what happened the hours before are not so pleasant, but at least now `i remember it all and can deal with it in a sane manner with a clear head.
Sending you tons of support and a huge hug. We are here for you. You can get sober and you can do it even if your boyfriend continues to drink.