Quitting the drink is going to increase the anxiety for first couple days. Do you have meds for that?
Yes, it's no fun to live like that. When people start throwing Scripture around I either get real quiet and them have it...or I ask if they are without sin? Probably best to just let them go off. It really annoys them. As I got older I learned that there is a big difference between Religion and being close to my God. Might be time to shop for a new therapist and Church. You have to feel comfortable. In the meantime, you ALWAYS have your relationship with Him. He's the only one who matters.
If all else fails say "ok Adam (or whoever) ive heard what you'd do...what do you purpose Jesus would do?" Usually gets them to wrap it up.
Give it to Him
Jules