Westexy, you WILL get there! Our delay was not attributable to a lot of divorce drama. We honestly agreed on every detail of the divorce. But I couldn't afford a lawyer, and when I originally filed on my own in November of '15, AXH was not outright obstructionist, but always had an excuse for why he couldn't get certain things together. And, I was still engaging in some codie behavior with him (not wanting to upset him when his dog died, etc.). But once he got a girlfriend at the end of last year, he was very willing to refile with me jointly in January. As soon as the 4 month waiting period was up, we submitted our final paperwork and got our court date. No muss, no fuss.
I hope the process finishes quickly for you, and as painlessly as possible.