Hello,
There are two sides to this story. You have been given suggestions that has addressed your questions and concerns. Those questions and concerns are coming from your side of the relationship. We dont really know what is going on aside from the little info you have given.
He could be a good man. He could be a lot of things. We dont know. No one really knows but you and this man you are involved with. With little info, and what you have stated, the suggestions that are given are for you to protect yourself and to make yourself a priority as opposed to letting this individual call all the shots in the relationship.
Take it one day at a time and see where that goes.