Originally Posted by
confusedarewe 
Thank you for your thoughts everyone. He said early on that he's just trying to be honest with me and during sobriety, he cannot make it to the next level in a relationship right now which I understood. He said that once he's sober longer, we can reevaluate the status. Even al Anon said he's being manipulative but I know that's not his intent. His intent is to be fully honest. Should I tell him that I think he's manipulating me? I do like the sex but do want a relationship. I love him. Again, so confused.
" Even al Anon said he's being manipulative but I know that's not his intent. "
if you know its not the intent, then why do you want to tell him you think he's manipulating you?
imo,
because youre in denial!
tell him you think hes manipulating you and he will manipulate you why he isnt manipulating you.
and wouldnt surprise me if that manipulation ended with sex.
tell us what it was on how you 2 "clicked?"
it reads because you both liked sex and could talk.