Welcome to SR, Mar, and glad you found your way here. While you didn't, by any means, post in the "wrong" part of the forum (there is really no such thing), you might find threads that resonate w/you more if you check out this section:
Friends and Family of Substance Abusers - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information
Maybe you can repost your post from here in that section, or perhaps ask a moderator/administrator to move it for you if you find that the family and friends of substance abusers area seems like a better fit for you.
In the meantime, hope you keep reading and posting. Wishing you strength and clarity as you move forward.