I'm also adopted and have a different story and different perspective on this issue, but am happy for you, Colors. I reunited with my birth mother 20 years ago and found a beautiful woman who should have been allowed to keep her child, but the social mores of the time would not permit it. The forced separation wrecked us both for a very long time and permeates our other relationships 'til this day. As for judging others, we're not in a position to judge anyone because none of us has the whole picture, just our own particular and limited view. But we all certainly can make healthy choices for ourselves, based on that view. The important thing is that you're in a good place and that's everything.