Originally Posted by
aliciagr 
This is beautiful and insightful too. Your parents are lucky to have adopted YOU.
I feel the same way about looking at the whole picture of someone. I know I wouldnt want to be judged by one flaw or even one good quality.
..but if they had stayed with the bfamily would they have the same outlook? Being judged for one flaw is not really what life with an alcoholic/addict equates to, is it? I understand the desire to minimise or compartmentalise the alcoholic's effects and affects but it is not possible in my opinion. Just our wishful thinking which they will often encourage.