Originally Posted by
darlacfp 
I do know it wasn't my fault intellectually but there are still some times I have trouble with it.
I told him I felt like he minimized my experience, that if he really was like that then living with him drinking shouldn't have been so traumatic. All he ever says is "I need to process that."
Very typical and may be accurate - as he was drunk and did not have to deal with the wreckage. My XAH still believes it is all about him and everyone should tiptoe around him while he is in early recovery. That I should be loving and huggy ex wife.He gripes about me not being supportive enough, and makes examples of mythical supportive people who are way better in being supportive. No longer my circus, no longer my monkeys, which I am greatful for.