H in recovery, revisionist history?
My H who was sober for 3 yrs before a one week relapse about a month ago, and now back fully into AA etc, told me that he does not blame his drinking on other people or situations, that they were stressors but that he alone is responsible. Which of course is great that he knows that.
But he also says he never blamed anything or anyone else, which is completely untrue, as he outright told me at various points while he was drinking that it was my fault.
Is it normal for a recovered alcoholic to look back and apply current sober way of thinking to his past actions? Perhaps he just doesn't remember. I guess I'm looking for some acknowledgement from him of his actual past behaviors rather than this assertion that he always has taken personal responsibility. It feels almost like my pain is minimized by saying that. Just wondering if others have experienced the same.