How adoption has helped me not judge the alcoholic
A tidbit you may not know about me; I am adopted.
Adopted from a not so "typical" family. A homeless family with disease running through their blood (From herpees, to addiction).
When conceived, I had fetal alcohol effect. My birthmother drank beer her whole pregnancy.
Some may see this as a negative BUT
I MYSELF SEE THIS AS A POSITIVE! I cannot thank this woman enough! Even though I have never met her (probably never will)
You have saved, my life, despite your flaws. You have given me up to someone, so special. You were selfless.
I was adopted by such a caring household.
And although
My adoptive family has alcohol issues as well. But I can never hold this against them.
They took a great risk taking me in. They saved me from homelessness .
I cannot compare, judging an alcoholic vs. having no home/family. Its impossible
For me , addiction, whatever kind, is a piece of a puzzle. It is not the whole picture. Just one color. I can not hold it against someone. It does not hold up in court, when I look at the big picture.
I cannot pay my parents back for their love they have given me. It is impossible. Therefore, I cannot hold their flaws against them.
The fact that decisions were made for a small baby, who is just learning to breath, cannot hardly think for themselves. I had no control over the situation . it just HAPPENED like magic. thats amazing.
I went from poor to rich. (Literally).
That , right there, gives me great hope for the human race,
What more can I say? I will not be able to repay them , perhaps until another lifetime.
Thnx for listening