Originally Posted by
firebolt 
It took me 5 years to leave. Saving him never worked, and I think I just finally loved myself enough to go ahead and save ME.
Same. When I realized he was spinning his wheels in the same spot for 5 years, same issues, same stories, same lies. I was moving forward and I needed more from him. I was fed up; the respect and trust was shot. And it SUCKED BIG TIME bc we had a lot of chemistry and I know deep down he is a great person.
It helped me to write everything down, e.g. pro/con list, reasons I needed to leave, what I truly needed in a long term partner, my goals, my plan, words that helped me get through it etc. It is still my bible when I am crying and missing him.
Take some time to reflect and do that. It may help give you a push when you see it all on paper. I also wrote a previous post about how I was able to finally leave if you look at my history. It was VERY hard for me.