Thank you all so much for these replies. They are more helpful than you probably even know! I don't know how I allowed myself to become involved in this mess. I was sober for two years before he came into my life. I think Satan himself sent him to destroy the progress I had made, and I know it's time for change. Thank God for this forum. I really needed someone to talk to. Part of this relationship has consisted of me cutting off everyone either by choice or by them getting sick of me calling them drunk. I feel like he's all I have. Please keep posting your replies. This is the stuff I need to hear. All I hear right now is what he tells me, and he said alcoholics can't get better. He's engaging in psychological warfare against me, and your comments are making me realize there's so much more to it.