I agree with others here, and would add that from what I
have learned (books, online, therapy, 12-step, SR) the tool
that I want to utilize next is helping others. Not in the
dysfunctional codependency way, but by giving my time
and talent to an organization or cause that I want to support.
This would mean meeting new people, seeing new perspectives,
getting outside of my head, feeling grateful to be able to
contribute to a positive cause. I'm deciding what group I
could be most helpful and committed to. I am still learning
about healthy behavior, relationships (especially with myself),
and communication.
Sounds like you have made lots of great progress!