Curmudgeon, Electrical Engineer, Guitar God Wannabe
Join Date: Jan 2012
Location: Where the mighty arms of Atlas hold the heavens from the Earth
Posts: 3,403
I don't think the concern ever really goes away. You wouldn't be human if it did.
But I think for those of us here who've been around this particular block and lived to tell the tale, there was a moment when we realized we can't let that concern hijack our well being. There is nothing we can do to change the behavior of an addict. There are no magic words that will miraculously cause an addict to reconsider their choices. Addicts have the right to make their own decisions and, by extension, their own mistakes. Once we acknowledge this, we begin the process of acceptance. Acceptance will, in time, lead to sanity.
Speaking personally, I found it liberating to admit I had no control over what another person did or didn't do, and I was able to keep my focus where it belonged: me.