I'm pretty good about not actually trying to make a difference with my son's life directly and I have zero exceptions aside from my own boundaries ... I THINK endlessly about way's to help him and then squash the thoughts, re-framing them to "How can I help myself instead?" Which is why I asked for help. He's free to live his life. I just struggle with all decisions re: him because I'm sick too.
Nothing is black and white...
Example: he has left this possessions on the side of the house and they are slowing being moved to his desert trailer, the stuff remaining is attracting rats. I've tossed some stuff but want to get bins and store it safely. I have zero perspective about this being "codependent" or me trying to control the rats? LOL! I don't mind the stuff being there, but rats are YUCKY.