The really great thing about this site, whether you choose to see it or not, is that the people here have a lot of knowledge about alcoholism and its effects on others. Things that I used to see as "progress" was really my AH telling me what I wanted to hear, and I used to post it here SO EXCITED just to be told that I am not the special snowflake I thought I was. These people have lived through situations much like yours, and a lot of them have really great advice, but you have to be willing to hear it and change yourself.