And batchel, one more thing:
I don't know how to get passed this point.
You do it by continuing to move forward. Do NOT stop the divorce proceedings.
Actually, a second thing too:
However it is convenient, and arguably better for my kids at this point.
I do not see this at all. Have you read over on the "Adult Children of Alcoholics" thread? I have never,
ever seen anyone post that they wish they would have been able to continue living with their alcoholic parent. The common theme is "my god, why didn't the sober parent get us out sooner?!" I grew up in a family that was deeply dysfunctional, although not alcoholic, and I can tell you that all of us kids would
gladly have lived in a box under the freeway rather than lead the life we did w/our abusive stepfather. However, being kids, we didn't have that choice, and neither do yours.