Just one point: there are lots of different kinds of AA meetings. Not a single one I go to is a "woe is me" one - people in it may feel this way but it's not the program. I have a home group that meets Mon, Wed, Fri and it is small and we are a pretty close group. I go to step meetings and Open Discussion at a larger clubhouse. Sometimes I go to a "How It Works" or As Bill Sees It at a different large clubhouse. I am different degrees of happy to be there at different meetings. But that doesn't matter. Comfort-seeking and finding reasons NOT to "like" AA can keep anyone drinking for - ever, if they want.