It was so much easier for me to stop entirely. Moderating was a dead end and so frustrating. The guilt, the shame, it all wore on me. In my heart I knew I had a problem, but I could not figure out how to "make it work." The best thing I ever did was stop completely a year ago. I do not drink. I am so much happier, and have so much energy. No more guilt, no more shame, no more hangovers. Present in my life. Good luck to you.