You made the right decision. She needs to focus on herself and recovery and you need to focus on yourself and your recovery. And as previously mentioned, a one year separation should do wonders for said recoveree and you yourself. She is going to need a lot of space to change, as are you. I am going through this very separation and believe me when I tell you, that my husband spazzed out when I told him I'm taking time off from us. I'm not looking to add a man to my life but to recover from the alcohol induced chaos that we've been living with for 7 years. He's got to figure out who he is and I have o figure out who I am. If we can meet somewhere in the middle someday then great and if not, then so be it but as far as I'm concerned, I'm just standing in his way if I stay with him. I removed myself and told him point blank, I will not interfere with his recovery as he should not interfere with mine.