TL1....I have always said that there should be a "law" that everyone who comes out of rehab (or anyone trying to get sober, for that matter). should live away from the family for one year.....I think it would be more humane for all concerned.
It is such a "dance" between the alcoholic and the loved ones....the whole family gets so entwined even if they don't know that they are. When they come straight back home, the entrenched behaviors tend to start up, again....
Everyone needs time to make the necessary changes....old habits die hard.