thank you all. Well, my son still hasn't confronted his dad. He's afraid of the fallout. Heck, I did the same thing for years, so I'm in no place to judge. When you're dealing with someone who is emotionally manipulative and unstable and you think they'll commit suicide if you leave them......you tend to just deal with it hoping it will go away. But, it won't. He knows my story. He knows 'our story'. It's going to have to be up to him to find peace and his own path. It just sucks watching our kids repeat our own misguided and dysfunctional paths.