"on the other hand..... how do I live with his death if I didn't try?"
reading your past threads and posts on this, it reads like you already have.
"he's tried it all.
what he hasn't tried is changing HIM."
in another reply, you mention he has been in rehab and/or detox time and again,no?
i can understand wanting to find something to blame, but the "system" isnt the problem here. its not the "systems" fault he is where he is.
it is alcoholism thats to blame If you want to blame something, which the BB says we have to drop the word blame
have YOU worked the steps on this?
i read youve been talking, what have you been DOING? it reads like youre trying to run the show here- youre trying to be someone elses HP
you didnt cause
you cant control it
you cant cure it.
might want to visit the friends and family forum and read some of the stickies. maybe even start a thread over there and get some advise from those folks.