Hi Maudcat! Thank you for your responses.
I guess I should clarify one thing. I am done living with the alcoholic. I'm not done with him....or at least I hope not. I truly want him to get clean so that he can move back in. We had the most amazing first ten years in our marriage. I want the guy I married, but maybe this is just wishful thinking on my part. To your point...realistically you are right. We might be completely done. wow! If he doesn't get clean I will NOT let him come back home.
I agree. Right now, he is looking for a soft place to land. The easy way out. I need to keep this in my mind on continue to stay strong.
I have consulted an attorney, but haven't hired one yet. I guess this is part of not wanting to believe we are completely done yet. Looks like I might need to face this though.