HBT....grief takes it's own time...grief must have it's way.....(there is a reason for this....engineered by Mother Nature...but, it is a long story, so I won't bend your ear)....
Lol...I think it is the nature of men (in general) to want to go quickly to the "bottom line"...for the "solution".....for the "fixing of any p roblem"....Processing thru things doesn't seem to be the strong suit.
Honestly, I think if men had to bear the young, the average gestation would be 3 months..give a day or two either way......
Seriously. think in terms of months...in fits and starts....One year seem to be the time that it slides more into "past history" feeling...rathere than in the here and now....