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Jenna1229 Thank you. The locks have been changed. I can't explain how or why I fell in love with him so fast. I just did and it was before any of this started. I feel bad enough as it is...more like a fool. Thanks.
I don't think you're a fool either, but there are so many bad things that can happen when we don't take the time to know someone before jumping in with both feet.
Ask me how I know. I used to do the same thing, and it nearly always blew up in my face. Now I don't even let them hold my hand or kiss me good night. I pay my own way. I drive or I meet them wherever in my own car. I don't have them inside my house and I don't go to theirs. No one has made it past my probationary period in many years.
That has weeded out a lot of frogs, let me tell you. They trip themselves up within a month usually. Anyone who is pushing for things to go faster than I want sends my spidey senses tingling. If it's not a criminal history, personality disorder or an unhealthy ex-relationship, it's an addiction (porn, sex, gambling, alcohol, illegal or prescription drugs, pot, internet, work, shopping, hoarding, there's a lot that can go wrong.) I don't want guns in my life, or a crazy ex or a crazy family.
On the flip side, I've seen enough that I doubt anyone will make it over the wall I've built. It's a pretty high one.