Oh boy tonight was a bear. My son came home for school and immediately started asking for toys and when I said it was time to study for a test all I got was lip and attitude, with not real drive or ownership. It turned into an ugly scene and then it calmed down, but it's so sad it has to get so ugly before its ok. Anyway, all I could think about was how miserable this fight is and how badly I wanted to have a drink and check out. Arggggg. I try to set boundaries, I took away his phone, but the friction in our home I feel drives me crazy. I didn't drink and now things are calm, but I can't leave my family to stay sober. Ideas?