The attached link leads to a step study I posted here a few years ago.
I highly recommend reading it and working each step by answering the questions and thinking about your answers.
I use this at least once a year for myself, as my life changes my answers change and it is one of the most useful tools of my recovery.
Give it a read through, you'll be glad you did.
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ependents.html