Welcome Peach Cobbler <3 Your story is almost exactly like mine, minus the family issues. He cut his alcoholic family off prior to becoming an alcoholic himself. The part where you talk about the music made me laugh out loud because my AH blasts music like it's a rock concert whenever he's drunk. We have a house and our neighbors can still hear it (and all the animals hide because they hate the noise)
I'm glad you found us, keep posting and go to some al-anon meetings. You are strong, smart, kind, beautiful, and lovable. Don't let him make you feel like you're anything less.
I thought you might like this quote, I hold it pretty close to my heart and try to channel the fire whenever I feel beat down or when I need the extra strength:
"Some women fear the fire, some women simply become it." -R.H. Sin
Be the fire sweet girl.