I am pretty new here. I asked if I should update in a new thread or in my original post. Most said to keep with the original. So just keep posting here and we will keep responding. My AH is surrounded by family and friends that drink. I can take it or leave it and kept an alcohol free house. Then AH was sneaking and drinking outside away from us. It is tough. It is hard. It is painful. I love my AH with all of my heart. But I have to love me and my kids more bc his addiction is dangerous to our family. Much support to you as you are going through some very tough times. If he is physically (this includes ANY kind of action- pushing- shoving or even raising a fist just as a threat) or verbally abusive- make sure and seek help and advice bc this kind of behavior is a separate issue from alcohol.